“When she treats me with respect then I will treat her with love.”
“When he shows me some love then I will treat him with respect.”
Isn’t that the way we view things sometimes? We feel burned by our spouse and we don’t want to show any “weakness” by giving in and offering any niceties until we are treated better. But this stalemate never works. God tells Hosea, “You love her, even though she’s been wrong. You show her love. Don’t wait for her. You be the bigger man and do what you must.” Nobody wants to be the bigger man (or woman).
I understand that this is a tough thing God is asking for but He knows what primes the relationship pump. Wife, you want love than you first show respect. Husband, you want respect, than first show love. One draws the other from your spouse. But you must take the first step.
Some want God to just change their spouse, “They’re the problem. Not me; fix them, God.” But Hosea doesn’t say, “But God. Deal with her first.” He follows God. Some of us are more into what we think must be fixed in our spouse first and not considering what needs to be fixed in us. It’s the Log Eye Principle (Matthew 7:3-5). You work on you. Let God deal with them.
Questions to consider:
What does the Log Eye Principle have to do with marriage? Read about it first, Matthew 7:3-5.
Why are we tempted to focus more on our spouse’s faults then our own?
Take an honest look at yourself. What is God wanting to change in you that will help better your marriage?
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